Monday, March 5, 2007

Who gave me this baby (the first 3 months)

I had no exposure to babies my whole life. I was the youngest child. I had no friends with babies. I baby sat when I was older, but never for an actual baby! This was made apparent to me when I took my newborn home. I had no idea (I know, I am an idiot) that babies cried, A LOT. My son was not colick-y, I was. He cried less than normal yet, it was heartbreaking to watch his struggle to get comfort. I felt clueless, helpless, stupid, powerless and sad. It was the hardest three months of my life.

I sincerely wish someone would have told me how very hard those first months are. It was exasperated by the fact that everyone was coming out of the woodwork to say, "oh, yeah, well that part is terrible." I was like, WHAT?! Are you kidding me? I felt so betrayed. All these people talking about how great life is with a baby and how fun they are. And now, I learn they didn't like their experience either at this time. It was validating, but so frustrating, I felt like Adam Sandler in the Wedding Singer, "That would have been valuable information to me YESTERDAY!"

So, if you are expecting a baby, expect the first three months to be long and challenging. If it isn't you are really lucky. If it is, take heart, we all went through it. If you don't know if you want babies, re-read this post. It is true and it is hard.

Be well friends!


The Clifton's said...

Wow, I have been dying to find a blog like this. I am a first time mom at 35 and it has been so hard. Finally he is almost 8 months old and it's getting easier. Sometimes. Glad to see this site.

Working Mom said...

Thanks so much for your comment. I cannot believe how many times I felt better just knowing someone else had this same experience, even if I was pulling my hair out at the time. Keep reading and keep posting!